Four sides and a pair of lips
Two characters between them place most of this family, and neither needs a hand lens. The stem is square in cross section, with four distinct corners you can feel through a glove, and the leaves are set in opposite pairs, each pair turned a quarter turn from the one below it. Look down a stem from directly above and the leaves make four ranks.
The flower gives the family both its names. Each bloom is fused into a tube that opens into two unequal lips, an upper one usually hooding the stamens and a lower one spread flat as a landing platform for a bee. The older name for the family was Labiatae, from the Latin for lip, and it is still in use. Lamium, the genus the modern name is built on, is the unremarkable dead nettle of a hedge bottom.
The fruit is the third character and the least obvious. Every flower leaves four small dry nutlets sitting in the cup of the calyx, which stays on the stem after the petals have gone. It is why so much of this family holds its shape long after it has finished flowering.